Starlit Night Falls - Ageplay Community Forum

Rules for our community, about our community

In light of recent changes in our membership and staff, we as a staff have decided that rules of community etiquette are necessary as an addition to the full site rules. In order to avoid the repetition of past unpleasantness, we would like to make it clear what is and is not appropriate, and what is and is not seen as considerate within our community. Those not adhering to this etiquette will be reminded of its existence and threads may be locked, but members will not be subject to escalating administrative action as in cases of the Official Rules being broken.

1.   Lurking (logging on, but not posting for long lengths of time) is denying people an opportunity to connect and become part of our community. We also discourage this because it can make members feel uncomfortable or like they are being ‘watched’. We all know what it’s like to only have time to read and not post but if it is known that a system (i.e. inners/alters who share a Big) are going to be gone for longer than two weeks, or if you will only be able to read but not post, you must let us know. You can do so by posting a topic in the absences board. If this does not happen, accounts may be deleted.

2.   The best way to get to know people is to join open or group threads, or to create a thread with an idea that you would like to play out and tag it open, or conditionally open (certain number of people, age-group, etc.). If you have organised a thread that you do not want to be open to anyone, please tag it accordingly (although those entering threads should consider if it makes sense for them to be present in the location). Untagged threads are understood to be open. Of course you can always PM people about starting threads one-on-one. Note: Tags do not apply for Journals, Safe-Rooms, Discussions etc and these are automatically considered open to anyone unless otherwise stated.

3.   A tag indicates who the thread starter wants to enter a thread, and who is able to, not who must. You can tag someone in a thread, but if you haven’t spoken to them beforehand, they are under no obligation to respond. A tag, or a post in a certain area, does not guarantee or require any person’s participation.

4.   God-modding or power play refers to writing the actions past or present of another person without their permission or approval. This is not acceptable as it may create situations that are unrealistic or that are contradictory with a person’s comforts.  NPC’s (non-playable characters or anyone around SNF who is mentioned but is not an actual member on the site) may be written as needed, but may not be used to ‘get around’ the adults.

5.   The community Adults use discretion when entering or not entering threads, even if they break the letter of the rules. This should not be seen as them not caring, or overlooking threads, simply acceptance of the fact that kids explore and learn through various types of activity. If any member of the board or their Big has an issue with a thread that they believe should be entered and has not been, please refer the thread to the staff for discussion.

6.     Any rule-breaking in a thread may lead to threads being locked pending adult discussion. The participant(s) will be informed of why the thread has been locked and the adults will discuss whether the thread will be entered or ended.  This locking will take place at staff discretion.

7.   Adults are members of our community too. They are free and welcome to enter (or create) any open thread that they feel they might enjoy. Our adults aren’t here to interact with children only in disciplinary situations. Children should ask adults if they would like to do something, just the same as they would another child, but of course adults may decline or suggest alternatives, as anyone else may. 

8.     Journals are a personal space. They should be used for personal reflection, and for support from other members. In this vein, we request that unless it directly relates to the member who is posting, the actions, thoughts and feelings of anyone other than that member should not be discussed - this includes those who share a system with them. If something posted in someone's journal strikes a chord, we also ask that you respond to that as a reply to that journal entry instead of as a stepping board to a post in your own journal, as your thoughts may be able to help the original poster. Similarly, no-one should ask any member why they have felt the need to post something in their journal or safe room if they have chosen not to make it explicit. Discussion of these subjects is entirely up to the creator of the journal or saferoom.

9.      If you have any questions, concerns or complaints to do with the board or its members, please refer them to the staff. Please keep in mind that if you bring something to do with the aforementioned to a staff member, that staff member will refer it to the entire staff, unless it is raised in mutually agreed upon confidentiality.

10.   As a community we will require activity check-ins every so often, to ensure that we are aware of our current membership. These will be posted on the board as well as sent to emails (which, per application requirements, should be active). Members will be required to let us know that they are present, and those who do not check in, and whose situations we are not otherwise aware of, will be deleted. We will not delete posts and people will be free to re-apply at a later date, but will be subject to a reapplication process.

** Note: Avatars need to be smaller than 170px wide to fit in the spot beside posts. Pictures for boards are 300px wide. If you are requesting additions to your house/cabin, please PM a member of staff with the changes you would like, using the aforementioned measurements for pictures.**